{"id":131766,"date":"2024-06-14T10:11:00","date_gmt":"2024-06-14T14:11:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yorbestlife.com\/?p=131766"},"modified":"2024-06-14T12:48:23","modified_gmt":"2024-06-14T16:48:23","slug":"get-good-at-finishing-things","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yorbestlife.com\/index.php\/2024\/06\/14\/get-good-at-finishing-things\/","title":{"rendered":"Get Good at Finishing Things"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">By Leo Babauta<\/h4>\n<p>Recently I had a reader write in to me about not being good at finishing things.<\/p>\n<p>A few examples of things they haven\u2019t finished:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They bought a course and never finished it<\/li>\n<li>They can\u2019t seem to stick to a diet<\/li>\n<li>They\u2019ve only gone on half of the hikes they want to go on in their area<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I can relate! It can be hard to finish things \u2014 we get excited about something at the start, but when we get busy or things get hard or boring, our commitment wavers.<\/p>\n<p>So how do we get better at finishing things? We have to deepen into commitment, and get support.<\/p>\n<p>Before we get into the details, it\u2019s important to note: <strong>commitment is a practice<\/strong>. It\u2019s not something you either have or don\u2019t have, or that you\u2019ll always suck at. You have to practice, develop trust in yourself, learn what works, learn to bring in what\u2019s needed for what you\u2019re facing. Let yourself get better at commitment by being in the practice of commitment, regularly.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019d like to practice commitment, here\u2019s what I suggest:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Make a deeper commitment<\/strong>: if you\u2019re only half committed, then when things get busy, your commitment will go out the door. So it\u2019s a practice to deepen the commitment \u2014 figure out why you really care about something, commit to others, and practice showing up no matter what. It\u2019s like the commitment of a parent to feed their children \u2014 there\u2019s no question.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Use accountability &amp; consequences<\/strong>: Most people don\u2019t want to create consequences, but when we\u2019re not really showing up with commitment, we can use accountability devices to deepen commitment. If you said you would have to get a pie in your face if you didn\u2019t finish the course you bought by the end of the month, you\u2019ll probably finish it. If you had to give $100 to a political candidate you don\u2019t like if you missed your diet 2 days in a row, you\u2019ll probably get more serious about the diet.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Get support<\/strong>: Get a coach and find a community. It\u2019s hard to persevere with something on your own. It\u2019s easy to let yourself off the hook when things get busy, and easy to beat yourself up about it, and easy to engage with the same patterns over and over again. A coach helps us to see the patterns and choose something different. A community helps us to feel supported and not so alone when things are tough.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>As you deepen into the practice of being committed, you\u2019ll notice that you\u2019ll falter a lot. You\u2019ll want to give up, or habitually start to go to distractions, or have lots of reasons why it\u2019s OK to put it off. That\u2019s totally OK \u2014 this isn\u2019t about doing it perfectly, but about practicing with these habitual patterns.<\/p>\n<p>So when you falter, don\u2019t quit. Think of it as a part of the growth process. You\u2019ll start, fail, learn, and try again, over and over again. As you do this, you\u2019ll get discouraged, and it\u2019s important to get support to keep going. Get encouragement!<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re interested in getting support from me, <a href=\"https:\/\/coaching.zenhabits.net\/\">consider doing 1-on-1 coaching with me<\/a>, or <a href=\"https:\/\/ignite.zenhabits.net\/fearless-living\/b9f29ac675b5998935b67c0588db8f30cf31ed45\">joining my Fearless Living Academy community<\/a>. The private coaching is a deeper commitment with much greater support, but FLA is a great community that will support you to keep going as well.<\/p>\n<p>The post <a href=\"https:\/\/zenhabits.net\/finishing\/\">Get Good at Finishing Things<\/a> appeared first on <a href=\"https:\/\/zenhabits.net\">zen habits<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Leo Babauta Recently I had a reader write in to me about not being good at finishing things. 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